Little Mister and Miss were my first bubbas. I had no clue of course. But besides there being two babies, my twins didn’t feel like twins. They didn’t like sharing a cot, didn’t develop a twin language and weren’t identical. Well, now that I have Big Bubba Boy, I can see that sharing your whole world with someone the same age as you 24/7 does change you. Big Bubba Boy is different. Singleton different.
Big Bubba Boy sucks his thumb, has a multitude of blankies and a sheepskin. He loves them all and if you want him to go to sleep, you need them all. Little Mister and Miss only really needed each other. Little Miss fell asleep to her brother screaming and Little Mister used to (and still does!) check that she was going to bed too. They’ve since developed attachments to Maxie, Maxine, Randy and Frisky (beloved stuffed animals) and they still share a room. They really freak out if the other isn’t there.
Big Bubba Boy is a very motivated bubba. He has two crazy older siblings to catch up to and he wants to do it now. Right now. He sat up way before the twins. Same with crawling and I’m almost certain, he’ll be walking before they did. Little Mister and Miss were slower to reach these milestones and I’m sure Little Miss would have been slower still if Little Mister hadn’t bitten the bullet. Two weeks after Little Mister was crawling, Little Miss was crawling. Same with sitting up and walking. Its like they looked at each other and thought, you’re here so I’m happy. Oops, you’re moving now. Let me catch up.
Where are you?
The twins always need to know where the other one is. At all times. Even if one is just in the toilet. They’ve been like this for as long as I can remember. Even as bubbas. Big Bubba Boy only really cares where I am. He’s interested in what the twins are doing but he doesn’t miss them when he can’t see them. Out of sight and out of mind. Its weird for me.
I’m sure there are a million of other small differences but these are the ones which have stood out lately.
Big Bubba Boy doesn’t sleep through the night. It might be too early to say but I think he’s an even worse sleeper than the twins…and there were two of them! Once in a blue moon he sleeps through. A glorious night when I haven’t had to get up and figure out why he’s awake. So I know he can do it.
Here are my reasons aka excuses why he just doesn’t.
1. He’s grown 8 teeth since Christmas and Big Bubba Boy is only 8mths old! Who would have thought pushing hard pointy bone through tender gums would be so painful???
2. Its been a busy day.
Problem is, its always a busy day. Its hard to have a calm relaxing day when you need to keep Little Mister and Miss out of trouble. So we’re often out-and-about at the library, the shops, the park, at friend’s places, visiting family….you get the idea.
3.He might be getting sick. He does have a snotty nose.
4. Big Bubba Boy is an action man just like his brother. Constantly on the move, exploring and making noise. There is no time for quiet reflection or time to let his brain slowly absorb all this new information. Guess that means his brain is doing it at night and waking him up.
5. Too cold.
6. Too hot.
7. He didn’t eat enough during the day. Not enough protein? Not enough booby milk?
8. Too much food. Big Bubba Boy is a greedy guts. Did he eat too much and now he has a stomach ache?
9. Did he nap too much during the day? Too little?
10. And of course, the best reason/ excuse, cos he loves mama cuddles.
Who needs sleep, anyway?
I thought I had outgrown having twin-dilemmas. I survived taking 2 babies out and about solo, tandem teethers and toilet training. Little Mister and Miss had put me through my paces and as far as I was concerned, them being twins was now a non-issue.
How very wrong I was.
What do you do when one twin is sick and the other is well???
I used to to keep both at home. I figured the other would get sick soon enough and as crazy as it sounds, it was easier to look after two than just one. But the twinnies are in kindy now. The Papa Bear and I have made such a big fuss of them being big boys and girls so we couldn’t continue our one-sick-both-home policy.
There were tears. Soooooooo many tears. Little Miss had a fever and I couldn’t send her. She cried. Little Mister cried. Not fake tears either. Heart wrenching soul destroying tears. I folded almost immediately but the Papa Bear was strong. He convinced Little Mister that he would be ok. That he could make something for his sister. I told Little Miss that we would get a little present and she could pick out one for him. It wasn’t my proudest mama moment but we survived the day and they were super proud of their ‘bravery’ presents. Little Mister even made a necklace for Little Miss. It was nice to see that they care for each other.
Do I buy 2? One for Little Mister and one for Little Miss or just the one? Is the photo for me? Or for them when they get older? I have all of my class photos but am I the exception? Will they be annoyed that I only ever bought one set? Or will I be wasting my money!?!
Grrrrrr…. I’m still stumped :-/